6 Reasons why the Good Guy Wins the Girl

Don't be nice.  Be true: to yourself, others, and before God.
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1.  Inner Strength 

2.  Courage 

3.  Character 

4.  Leadership 

5.  Authenticity 

6.  Endurance

1.  Inner Strength:
While the good guy operates from a position of strength, the nice guy operates from weakness.  A good guy is humble, which means he understands he has strength, but opts not to use it for his own position or gain.  Even if the book “The Game” recommends using “negging” or backhanded compliments, a good guy is strong enough that he doesn’t need to use pathetic tactics.  The purpose of “negging” is to make a woman feel inferior and supposedly gives a man control, but a good guy knows he is a catch.  A powerful woman does not threaten a man who has true strength.  If anything, a man of strength will only strive to elevate women.

2.  Courage:
A good guy has the courage to pursue a woman.  He’s not afraid to go up and start a conversation.  Fear does not control his life, so he has no need to be controlling, passive aggressive, or overprotective once he is in a relationship.  He holds on to promises of hope, and puts his confidence in God, not himself, nor a relationship.

3.  Character:
A good guy is secure in his identity.  He is not needy, nor does he seek approval like the nice guy.  A good guy will not compromise his morals or ethics to try and fit with a woman.  His moral compass will not waver.

4.  Leadership:
A good guy holds the vision for the relationship.  He is forward thinking and so there is no need for him to micro-manage the relationship.  He notices the small things and plans in advance.  He has a vision for the kind of woman he wants, and takes the initiative in his dating life.

5.  Authenticity:
A good guy gives compliments because they are true.  The nice guy and the bad guy resort to flattery and brown-nosing.  Women are intuitive.  Everything a good guy does is genuine, not because he wants people to like him.  He compliments women because he appreciates them each as a person and can recognize positive attributes regardless of his intentions.

6.  Endurance:
And finally he’s a marathoner.  This has nothing to do with running, but a good guy is in it to win it.  He strives for the prize and doesn’t let anything stand in the way.  He’s not short-sighted.  Obstacles might get in the way, but he doesn’t give up, or cast blame.  He owns his story.